“Here is to good friends, tonight is kind of special” – Lowenbrau Beer Ad
It just so happens that my second oldest child has been visiting for the Christmas holiday this past week, and is going home tomorrow. But for the short time he has been with me, I am reminded of his keen wit and sense of humor; of which, I feel a great responsibility for shaping, sometimes wrongly. I am fortunate enough now to share my grandiose and often blue sense of humor with Anthony, Autumn and Ayden.
As most families do, we were playing a game of “If Mom Died”, over dinner, we began to discuss the succession of the presidency of our house; this is a fun and educational experience where you learn a lot about who really rules the roost. I decided if mom dies, that I as vice president would take over. I said it would be a lot more fun, because I am more like Uncle Joe Bidden, out looking for poontang. Immediately regretting this in front of my current audience ranging from 15 years to 7 months; I pushed on with the subject.
I told the kids that Alex, as the oldest, would then be next as Speaker of the House, followed by Adam as the President Pro Tempe of the Senate (I likened him to Harry Reid for an inside joke, but he did not get it), and then Anthony as the Secretary of State. At this point, I could not remember the succession, I told the family it would go to Autumn as secretary of something. As I tried to remember if it was Secretary of Interior or Defense, she blurted out to nobody in particular, “I know, I am the Secretary of Poontang”. To which we all tried to hide our laughter. Me, I tried to hide my disappointment; I wanted to be Secretary of Poontang.
This conversation for me sums up 2012. It has been a year of highs and lows, mostly highs – but the lows run deep. Both Amanda and I have had to fight back from a dark spot of the blues, and I think we are doing a fine job. Some of our other remarkable achievements in this year of change include getting married, becoming a one income family, saying hello to a new baby, saying goodbye to the truck, welcoming in Mark with his marriage to Mimi, getting and losing an iPhone and finally, realizing maybe what we thought we had always wanted is not necessarily what we want or need any more, for both of us.
A lot of 2012 for me was awfully sedentary and I have paid a huge price for it; mentally, emotionally and physically but luckily, ours is a house of love and happiness, for the most part; I will be working on some of the small pieces (see my last post) as will Amanda. But in our house, all are welcome, and all are invited. I am the most fortunate man to have married the woman I did and have the kids and family I do. That is why my resolution list was short. I summed it up to Amanda perfectly the other day, 2013 will be the year I become the man I want to hang out with today. Easy, right?
I see A LOT of changes coming in 2013; possibilities that two years ago I would not have thought, but it will amaze and excite. I wrap up the last 16 hours of 2012 with a heart not heavy of things I left undone, but with the warmth of my family, the love of my life and the excitement to create 2013 in my view, and probably lots more events like the one at the start of the post.
I raise my coffee to you, yours and all; here is to old friends, new friends and those I have not yet met. Good journey and happy, blessed, New Year